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Everybody around is getting married. Even the British royalty seems to be in a hurry to take the plunge. Word of caution from well-wishers is not good enough for the lovelorn couple who sees no reason to the fuss around. And why not? Did we listen to the more experienced friends when they cautioned us? With dreamy eyes and soulful of expectations we tied the knot. And before you get me wrong, let me clarify one thing. I am not against marriage at all. And why should I because I have tasted and sailed through the different turns of holy matrimony myself. So, fear not but be realistic in your expectations and needs from this new relationship which according to Hindu mythology is sure to last your not one but seven lifetime. Quite a task! What say?
Here are some pointers which might help you for a reality check:
• All real couples do fight and they fight a lot. So if you feel that your marriage is going to be completely different from your parents who still fight at the slightest hint. You are in for some surprise. Chances are you could end up fighting more.
• Marriage is like a long drive on a highway. In the same journey, some roads are a treat to drive while others are a terror to pass by. Quite alike, in a marriage some days are like a dream come true while others are too bad even to wake up to.
• Marriage is a sealed deal which has no provision for any alteration in future. So if your spouse today can give some serious competition to any beauty queen. Count your blessings and don’t brag about it. Because people do change quite a lot and she might not look the same gorgeous babe you got hooked to. Your prosperity might be proportional to her size making her bloat even more with every success of yours. After all haven’t you heard the saying, “Behind every successful man there is a woman”. Now nobody told us how this woman looks like, right?
• Whether you thought you’ll never let any outsider intrude is a fiction far away from reality. Parents are bound to get involved. More so in your fights. And you will find yourself uttering sentences like, “See your mom said this and your dad told me that.”
• You’ll truly wait and celebrate just the first anniversary. After that the counting will stop. Rest will follow as you keep working each day to make it work. And one fine day, somebody will wish “Happy Anniversary” while you’ll wonder “oh, maybe that is why the day sounded familiar”. Then as you end up another fight for forgetting the D-day. You’ll find yourself murmuring, “Big deal! Marriage is not the end of the world.”
Before you think that I am trying to persuade you against it. Let me just say that I am not. Marriage is an experience on which you can write books. It is a change you wake up to and a belief you fall asleep to feeling secured where advices do come handy most times. And tomorrow don’t blame me that “I didn’t tell you so.”
