Importance of being nasty

Be nice, girl. Hence, I was taught to speak politely. Respect elders. Not use the bad words. Herald encouraging word to an uncompetitive colleague. Shower kindness to the needy. Blah blah…
But nobody told me that being not-so-nice makes you famous. And most importantly makes your life, oh-so-comfy. People change their attitude towards you. They know you won’t take anything less than what you want from them. They suddenly value your time more and hence will call you only when absolutely necessary. You will never be overburdened with somebody else’s job because you aren’t nice enough to help others.
The world will somehow seem a peaceful place to work without any overfriendly comments to bear with. People will maintain their distance and won’t interfere or show unnecessary interest in your life. They will fear for their lives because they know you can give your peace of mind which in most cases will ruin their state of mind.
In relationships too, you wouldn’t be stressed in meeting expectations because you have no expectations to live by. They know you can be quite nasty so wouldn’t bother you so much. You know how to refuse and so wouldn’t listen to unnecessary obligations/questions/interferences.
I’ve struggled a lot being nice to people, that’s what we have been taught. But lately when I decided to let out the worse in me, I feel more in control. In control of my life, in-charge of my work schedule and most importantly in the process of seeking a respect out of terror that I had never experienced before. Haven’t you seen the government taking so many precautionary steps under threat of a terrorist attack? Would that have been the case under normal situations? Would anybody take so much pain, for nothing?
Hence, the lesson learnt is that it pays to be not nice. It is important to say it out when need be. It is equally important to let people know that you ain’t the sacrificial goat. And will resist, bite if need be. You will say ‘no’ even at the risk of losing out.
Wonder why didn’t the elders preach me the positives of not being nice? Maybe they never realized themselves and still struggle to maintain the niceties. That generation is different and their circumstances were different too. In today’s world, I’ve learned that it is important to be nice but equally important to not be one. Because at the end it all boils down to you and your happiness. So if the situation demands you to shout some choicest words, so be it. Don’t worry about your image. Good girls do abuse at dire situations. Pick the best you know and blast out. It will give you an internal peace, you’re yet to experience. The job will be done on priority with the added advantage of people being “be-ware” of you. You’ll develop a brand image of your very own. Agreed, eyebrows will be raised and you might run the risk of getting the gossips late. But who cares when people start taking you seriously?
Try it, it works!


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