I, Me and Myself

Most of us love our space. Yet, if there isn’t someone to share the space, we hate it. This hatred towards life grows further if people around have someone special in theirs. It’s funny, how the bitterness takes the best out of us seeing others happy. We don’t intend to but we end up wishing ill.
And those who deny are living in self-denial because no one can live alone. Men have a little edge in handling loneliness as they are brought up in a certain way. Their upbringing trains them to spend more hours outdoors while women are groomed to be “ghar ki sobha”. Resulting in women facing bigger challenges to fight being on their own.
Here are some of the tips which might help considering my immense experience of being on my own:
• Invest in friends who are for life-long and to whom you can pile on whenever you want.
• Develop a hobby and spend hours in it, no matter how stupid it might look to others, such as gardening, sketching, dancing or plain simple bathroom singing.
• Try to be your best friend. Go on regular dates with yourself. Do things on your own even if people might find it odd like shopping all by yourself, going for a movie, eating out alone.
• Join some social group and make an effort to attend their weekend programmes.
• Don’t isolate yourself from your family and difficult as it seems, make some time to be with them.
• Pamper yourself. Whenever you feel low, visit the all-friendly neighbourhood salon cum spa and just indulge. Don’t worry too much about the bill because you’re spending on yourself.
• Travel as much as you can. Take frequent breaks and venture out.
• Exercise in any form does help. It could be long walks, sweating it out in the gym or whatever you’re comfortable with.
• Most important treat yourself well. So cook for yourself, sometimes elaborate meals too. Dress up nicely and make every effort to look good. You never know when you’re going to bump into that special someone, so always be prepared.
• Appreciate yourself. Buy gifts for yourself. Why depend on someone else to buy you expensive stuff? When that special one comes he’ll spoil you with gifts but till then keep showering the goodness on yourself.
• Try to watch a lot of mushy romantic films because it’ll give you hope. It will ensure that you never stop dreaming of better times ahead.
• Get on the net though watch your steps closely because you might run into trouble. But make the most of the information age. Connect with people or read extensively. Choice is yours!
• Good old reading helps to ward away boredom. When you’re tired of the sounds of the idiot box, switch to books. It makes you intelligent and you can impress others with your intellect.
• Be neighbour-friendly. It will give you the advantage of dropping into their places whenever the loneliness gets too much to handle.
• Being single has one huge advantage – you’ve all the time to yourself. Do good to someone. Get involved in some social work like teach the helper’s children, babysit animal orphans, read to the visually-challenged etc. The satisfaction is immense and adds up to your sense of self-worth.


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