Despite the world changing, power of politics shifting, old icons replacing, new vehicles entering-there are old norms which are holding their grounds quite firmly. One that is still holding strong, are the mindsets of our women, shockingly even the younger lot.
Few reminders to the people of my tribe, irrespective of age, caste and creed:
• Just because you’re a woman, things won’t come easy to you. In the corporate world, women need to work equally hard with the men around so you can’t complain of cramps, devilish in-laws, unsympathetic husband etc. to win sympathies. Don’t even think about opening your personal problems at work. You’ll win their attention but you can’t win a promotion.
• You have every right to date and dump men till the point you would like to commit to someone. You have every right to explore your physical self and it simply doesn’t mean that whoever you sleep with should be the same person you wake up to for the rest of your life. There needs to be better reasons for you to stay committed to someone till the end.
• Start a family only when you’re ready. Doesn’t matter if your parents are ready, your in-laws are pushy; your neighbours are waiting or even when your partner uses protection reluctantly. Because you’ve to be ready for it. Afterall the kid is going to come out of your body and will need your time, space. Others are there to help but can’t shoulder the entire responsibility. Be sensible, use precautions, avoid accidents and take all the time you want. Age is a constraint agreed but then medical science has advanced and delivered miracles. And most important, if you don’t want to be a mother, it’s absolutely okay not to have a maternal instinct.
• When you have age on your side, the world is kinder to you. As you grow older, the world starts changing. And why the world, look inside, your body won’t be the same either. The wrinkles will gain prominence along with weight. Exhaustion will fall upon much quickly than before. So think of the future and plan ahead. Plan for your health, financial security and even the people you would like to grow old with.
• We are bad with numbers. We are extremely ignorant of various investment plans. Little we know and we don’t even want to know more, increasing our dependencies on men. But remember, nobody is indispensible. Get worldly-wise and get acquainted to the basics atleast to save yourself of trouble.
• Life is unpredictable. Today, there is somebody to pay your bills but what if tomorrow changes? So get equipped with education and pursue a career. Working isn’t about making money all the time but the satisfaction of making your own is beyond words. Never be with someone who stops you from getting financially self-sufficient.
• No man can bring you happiness. Happiness is within us and no external force can empower us to feel happy. Do things that make you happy. Be with people who make you laugh. Most important, you need to have a life and you can’t cling on to someone to give you one. So find your passion apart from work and keep some time for it, no matter how busy you get. Because if you ain’t happy how can you make others happy?
• You can’t make everyone happy so learn to deliver less and train people to expect less from you. Because we have a bad habit of committing more and then stressing beyond to deliver our commitments. In delivering those, we lose ourselves and fall last on our priority list.
• Never work in double shift at work and home. If you can’t manage, ask for help because only if you do, will you get some help. And it isn’t wrong to ask for help. Even Gods asked help from each other whenever they got stuck, remember?
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